Underlying ATTRACTION

Hey everyone I'm back with my next blog post but before I start off I want to thank all of you'll for the over-whelming response and appreciation you have bestowed me with helping me complete a 1000 views with seven blog posts over a period of few months. Thank you one and all for being my ardent readers.

So let us begin with the next perspective of life i.e., Underlying ATTRACTION. What were your first thoughts for the word "attraction" ? Maybe a new place, Person or a thing? But my idea of Attraction holds a special meaning here. Underlying ATTRACTION is the FAITH we hold within us.

FAITH or the law of ATTRACTION as stated in various places is what we strive for in life. The moment when you want to give up and not look back, the urge to defy someone's belief or just say you can't do it anymore. The attraction towards faith is in various forms, be it with god, be it with yourself, your hard work or your belief in something. All this sums up to one thing in life knowingly or unknowingly we start to look through things in life we believe never will happen. It's human tendency to hold up to the last thread of hope. But there are times when people actually give up not because they can't take it anymore or don't have it in them, it's the lack of underlying ATTRACTION, the FAITH.

why giving up seems the best option at times?

Why not facing it is the best solution to the problems in day to day life?

How many times have you told yourself that it's over, no more, I quit and various other phrases ?

The world is working at a lighting sped which adds up to the expectations and competitions that are heading our life. There are times when I have had issues holding on to this underlying attraction, thinking I would give up but then life has it's own ways to teach when you least expect it to. As I said earlier we hold up to even the last thread of hope, that's what I did and I know many do the same too. There is nothing wrong in being in such situations in life, no offence to the people who don't believe in facing anything as such. Being a human you're bound to learn with each step you take in life, even before your birth. It's a never ending process. But that doesn't mean you can't make any mistakes or errors. The best part of making errors or mistakes is bouncing back with a new determination for yourself alone. Many of you might go back in thinking in what way did this occur to you now. Don't shy away from accepting something and rectifying it in life.

The best way of coming out of this delusion that you can't hold on to the underlying attraction any further is to deal with it in your own ways. Have a self talk ( positive thoughts ), might be sitting in a calmer setting or talk to a friend or a confidant. Go through everything you did in the first place to get here, you'll realize how far you have come in life. Underlying attraction is as imaginary within us as many other emotions/actions we deal with each day. ATTRACTION is underlying, it's within us, all you need to do is to recognize it and make the best use of it. This attraction plays a vital role in life than any other form of attraction.

Ending this on a lighter note, larger part of our life is based on the underlying ATTRACTION, be it as simple as wishing for a pleasant day or a pending work to be accomplished, it's all there. When you gaze at a mountain you realize how far you need to go, but the underlying ATTRACTION, the FAITH, within us makes you reach your destination, even though there are hurdles all through the way. Same way in a new work or a venture, we hold on to the underlying attraction which helps us make it more easier to deal with. Take a step towards it; it will take ten steps ahead for you. FAITH in you brings out the FAITH in your hard work and a zest to life. :)

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Being "ME"

Hey everyone I'm back with my next blog post after a really really long time.First of all i want to thank you all for the review of the previous blog and appreciation. :)

Most of my previous blog posts are inter-related to the relationships with people who are connected to us in our life. So this time it's going to be only about being yourself, expressing yourself, making a choice for yourself- its all about being ME.

The first time and the only time i guess we have completely been ourselves is when we were kids, all carefree, living life to the fullest, no tensions, no baggage's or any kind of self pity. I know many will tell that they are still enjoying their life, but i want you to ask yourself when was the last time you looked at yourself and said your the best? Did something out of your character like a new hobby or work only to see change for once in life? When was the last time you did something thrilling or faced your deepest fears? None or might be something is your answer?

Well, it's how life has become as we are busy running around to prove ourselves in front of everyone, forgetting that it's YOU who needs to be happy from within of what you are doing with yourself, with your life. It's a fast phasing life and everyone are busy trying to attain the highest position or say constant competition to prove that your're the best, but, Is that the success which is gonna give you the feeling of being the best? Of course not, unless and until its your dream your chasing. There is stereotypical professions you choose not by choice but by not given any other choice. Might be your once hobby is what you are passionate about in life. I'm not against educating yourself, off course that's essential part of life and so is your dream and desire for life.

Why not for once give it a try? Something like discovering yourself and not proving to be someone else. You don't have to be a famous personality from any field but be yourself as your uniqueness brings out the best in you. It's not about the language you speak or which family you belong to or what race you are or anything for that matter that defines you, but it's your hidden talents and the ability to enjoy your life, your way. I know there are 'n' no of 'x' factors that comes as an obstacle in many people's life but is it not worth giving it a try in-spite of all this? for once running behind your dreams and being in a life you wish to be. Five years down the line from today is this what you dream yourself to be like? Is this your plan? If yes, don't ever chance your way. If not, then it's high time you buckle yourself up to make decisions for yourself. You can't make people around you happy if you are not happy from within. When you walk your legs balance your body, the same way your dreams, your ideas, your creativity, the zest to lead a content life is what makes a balanced living. Let go of the emotional baggage's or self pity or analyzing self worth. It's not what you were born for and god appreciates each one of us for who we are and what each one of us posses.

Ending it on a lighter note, Do something that makes you happy each day, Enjoy doing something really silly, Be the reason for someone's smile or encouragement and for yourself too, If your hobby is not your passion still do it once in a while because you once enjoyed doing it and it's worth it, Chase your dreams and desires not success and competition, Make time for yourself to collect your thoughts, analyze the things you did and want to do, Be there for someone who'll need you, Go on a long drive or a trip, Face your deepest fears, Enjoy your life to the fullest, Be good and do good but the end of all be YOURSELF. Life is too short to hold anything against anyone but long enough to lead a happy life and do what you always have wished for. Remember, wishes are made to be turned into reality someday.:)

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Forever Bond OR Forgotten Bond ?

Hey everyone i'm back with yet another blog post but before that i have an amazing news to share with you'll, Life For Me My Way blog is not only read in India but across the globe too (ex:UK,USA,UAE,Pakistan,Qatar,Nepal and so on). Thank u one and all for the support and encouragement.

Now back to yet another prospective of life as i always say, Bonding with people is something we do with our choice and cherish it for a lifetime but some don't last with tide of time. But why? So here is the next perspective to know why- Forever Bond OR Forgotten Bond ?

As the titles goes forever bond or forgotten bond refers to one relationship which is close to everyone's heart and everyone has one special person or many to name - FRIENDSHIP.

Friendship is a bond we build since young age, be it with our siblings, parents, neighbors or the new people we meet. Friendship starts when we first enter our schooling life, new place, new people and the excitement to discover everything. As tender minds we search for solitude or say helping hand to hold us through this new found world. No matter how many years pass by no one forgets their first best friend, the bond we share. With years passing by, few continue to be in the same schools or colleges or some opt various opportunities but still be in touch with their old pals. There is no other feeling better than turning to your friends for solace. But there is another side of the story too as they say every coin has two sides, friendship has two sides of it too. There is one side where we laugh, we tease, we hangout, we have fun, do crazy stuff with our friends, and then there is another side with betrayal, misunderstandings, forgotten or distanced friendship too.

Wonder why?

How many of you'll are still in touch with your childhood buddies or the ones you made in college? If you are how many still hangout with them? Very few. With passing years we meet new people ,make new friends, we have a personal life as we call it which was once included with friendship too, misunderstandings or communication gap or say ego. Everyone has ego within them but with different interpretations of them according to psychology. At a certain point for say we have a misunderstanding or difference of opinion, our ego doesn't let us see the point that it's pointless to have argued, as no one understand us better than our own friends if we share our opinions more calmly. A simple sorry to mend the long lost friendship does it all. It is not because we are weaker or guilty but you know what that friendship meant to you before u chose to be apart and what importance they held in your life. No offence to the people who know some just don't know the value of this word in life. Apology and forgiveness not only mends relationships but sets you free from the emotional baggage. Friendship is the only bond we choose in our life to build, not like other relationships which are given to us by birth. Ask yourself is it worth it to forget it or have it forever? Are we so busy in our life not to spare a few moments to make them a part of our memory?  Make new friends, meet people from every walk of life as we learn something new from everyone but don't forget the friend/friends who lay the foundation of friendship with you and make the friendship stronger with new found friends too. Everyone has a role to play in our life and friendship is one of the most important of them as we confide sorrows, share our joys and trust each other. We don't realize who comes to us as a helping hand, never forget what they did for you. All that they did was not for they had too but they always valued you as a person, a friend forever.

Ending this on a lighter note, Friendship grows as we grow. It's built with years of understanding, love and care. Don't let it break with a mere fight or misunderstanding. Friends are your reflections, they don't judge you but accept you the way you are and trust you without holding back. It is one relationship which is not restricted with religion, caste or gender. It's the selfless bonding that makes it worth it. Like a plant, grow it with care and you'll have a beautiful blossomed flower to hold in the end. Make it a forever bond and not a forgotten bond we pass with time. Make a beautiful movie of memories when you look back in time, which is without any negative aspects, or you'll end up never wishing to look back in life. Hope at the end i have made you go back to the time you have cherished the most and off course a smile in the end. :)

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Beauty Lies In The Eye Of The Beholder

Hey guys am back with yet another blog post, with yet another perspective on life. As the title says it all i.e., Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. As much as am gonna give an insight on this topic, it is also a famous proverb many have heard or read about said by Plato. I would be a lie on my part to tell i don't like dressing or appreciating ones appearance but a person's inner beauty is something that stands out in-front of all the outer appearance for me as a person. Back to the saying -

How many appreciate a person's appearance not knowing how they are as a person?

Is it wrong to only appreciate the outer appearance and not the inner beauty of a person?

How many even think about it?

Unfortunately, there are very few who hold importance of a person's inner appearance and their qualities, than their outer appearance. It isn't wrong to appreciate a person's appearance but it is surely wrong to appreciate only their outer appearance than their inner beauty. There was a  time when only women invested money on their appearance to look more beautiful but in today's world men aren't far behind. Wonder why?

With media being a huge source of communication, it brings in the perspective of how beautiful people look on television or any other source of media, be it an actor, or any other public figure or having just an appearance in any media. All the self confidence, self-realization and appreciation of oneself comes from what people see you like, not what you feel about yourself. For example if a person is plump, or they have pimples, blemishes, dark skin, deformed face, acid accident or as simple as not dressing up-to someone standard of expectations, how easy it is for people to cringe at one look. No offence to the people who look beyond all this and still love and appreciate a person. But in today's ongoing trend there is increased interest in terms of how they appear in terms of looks. There are cases were husband/wife or even family don't like the person with flaws in outer appearance as they say it, which has ended in hazard cases. It is so important for a person to have a clear skin, fair skin, soft skin, perfect facial features and so on? Is it not important for a person to have a clear heart, good character, a giving nature and simplicity ? Why is it important to spend thousands, lakhs or crores to make oneself look more beautiful than they already are? This is all the people out there, it's ok to pamper yourself with self indulgence stuff or dress up for yourself but don't get into it so much that you stop appreciating yourself. Everyone is god gifted with the way they appear or the qualities each one possess. Value them before you lose the essence of it in life. Appreciate yourself and even you husband/wife or daughter/son or any family member or any loved one. Don't ever pass a ill remark to them, you may not know what you may drive them into. Constructive criticism is good at times but too much critics can be destructive too.

Ending on a lighter note, when you gaze at a waterfall, you immediately appreciate its beauty but don't bother to look within the flowing water as how dirty it is,the same way beauty is with age. As time passes by, one gets old and not look the same but what stays with you is your inner beauty for people to remember and appreciate life-long. Make a mark with permanent beauty that lays within you and not on temporary satisfactions.:)

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How Permanent Is Your Relationship ?

hey everyone am back with yet another blog post i.e., How Permanent Is Your Relationship?

Relationships are of different kinds be it with your parents, siblings, friends or your love life.

This question makes you jump to answer i have a secured relationship and no regrets or setbacks. But have you wondered with time how many people you have walked passed for their own or your own good. It is because you realize that everything isn't as permanent as it looks? Every person entering your life has a lesson for you, the good or the bad but for lifetime to remember. Some say it is not easy trusting again when it is broken, is it true? Off course it is. Everyone have their way of handling the pain where some choose to move on and some take time but life doesn't give a chance to wait. They say time and tide waits for none. Same way life keeps pushing you to let people enter your life without your consent. At each point every relationship is put to test but no one fails in it, but just realize how their point of view differs from each other. One is not wrong only because they don't share the same view space. Every individual is born with a mindset he shapes up with growing years. Some learn the good habits and some the bad ones, by choice or consequences.

For example, You have a happy childhood all along but as you grow the same parents presence pricks your eyes. Have you wondered why? Its not your mistake you see them that way, its your perspective with the new found world that changes you. Another example is that, a close friend who was always so jovial and loving suddenly changes to be the opposite. Have you wondered why? It is the circumstances and the change in attitude towards life and its lesson. No relationship is an excuse to live life or having people for the sake of it. Every relationship is a choice and they have the choice to leave but if they stay back or you want to make them stay back, it reminds of how important that relationship or person is in your life no matter who it is.

Ending on a lighter note, Take no relationship or person for granted. Every relationship may or may not be permanent but at the end of the day, your want for it, the way you nurture it, care for it and love it, hold it close to you heart makes every relationship worthwhile. Relationship makes you who you are and not what you wanna be in life. Truth lays in front of your eyes don't let it slip with the sands of time.

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VOICE it out OR choose The SILENCE

Hey everyone, am back with yet another blog post. i.e., VOICE it out OR choose the SILENCE.

You might be wondering why have i high-lightened in caps the words VOICE and SILENCE. Well, these are two strong words which can either make or break a situation or a person. There are n number of times in life when you choose voice over silence and vice versa. 

Have you wondered as to y some people choose silence when they are involved in a disagreement situation or unpleasant events ?

Or 

Why people choose to use voice to prove their point at times?

As VOICE is a way of expressing what you wanna communicate to the opposite person,same way SILENCE is. For example when you have an argument with your loved one, at times its better to stay silent than using voice and regretting the words u say to them later. As words once spoken cannot be taken back.When in other situations like fighting for justice or any other situations you need to voice out what you feel about it or your silence will be mistaken. Though both are different emotions they hold the same effect depending on the situation. 

I have used a very simple way to communicate the two strong and important words in life for anyone to use. The words communicate lot more than what i have to say and what you have to understand. Lots of people have anger management issues thought at times they don't mean or say what they do to you. These two words play a huge role in their lives, as they have to use them at the right time and at the right situation. And, even for the people for whom the relationships are important and so is the person or helping oneself/someone in a unpleasant situation.

So here i am concluding another perspective of life where silence is not your weakness and voice is not always your strength. SILENCE when you don't want to make things ugly and VOICE when you don't want to make things uglier than it already is.

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Illusion or Reality

First of all thank you one and all for the overwhelming response to my first blog post.

Here is my second post especially to those who are in illusion and not in reality.

Luckily right from my understanding years of life i have had an open minded thinking for everything i chose and decided in my life. I had the liberty to choose the way my thoughts would be about things, living or the way I want my life or the people around me to be, with elders constantly telling this is right and this is wrong and now choose your way. Touch-wood i have been lucky enough to choose the right ways most of the times and sometimes the bad ones. Not that i complain as its given me a lifetime lessons. With passing years i have realized no matter whose genes are passed on or how you have had your upbringing, at the end of the day we have our own thinking, which by default doesn't really come out until you get a blow of what reality is. Being a psychology student, it's a fact i have realized, if someone close to you says, for example, that they don't like the color orange because of so and so reason, you start to see the color in their point of view, though you like that color, their perspective on it subconsciously becomes your perspective too. In simpler words, you start having their thoughts as your illusion of disliking it than having to agree your liking in reality.

In same way there are lots of incidences where you are forced to think whether you follow what you been taught all along or to go ahead with your thinking and take a risk. Why I say risk is because when you choose to see thoughts in your way, not everyone accepts it with open arms even though they know you are right. Why? Fear of being judged by your loved ones or I may say what society might think. I am not saying they are wrong in their thinking or what you have been taught all along is wrong, they are right in their own ways. All i'm saying is choose your way, your perspective to think and do what you like than force yourself to be what your not. If you are sure whatsoever kind of relationship you share with someone is not beyond your limitations, if you are sure some decisions you make is for your own good that will change your life in a good way, if you are sure a single decision or help is gonna do good to someone and so on, go ahead with it without worrying of the consequences, because it's better to be in a reality of your thoughts than being in the illusion created by other's thoughts. It's all about living up-to what you believe in than what you are forced to believe in.

Ending this on a lighter note, its ok to ask someone their advice when you're in confusion but be sure that it's your decision at the end. Everyone's born for a purpose and every person is different from the other, so their thoughts can be an advice to you not your decision. Hope this makes an impact to your thoughts.

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Poetry In Reality

Hey everyone, a warm welcome to all those who are going read my first ever blog.

As this is my first post i have various topics running in my mind to share and know the views on it. After a lot of thinking i decided to post on something which is always been my personal space to my views on how i see my life at times i.e., POETRY.

Life has always given a reality check whenever i have tried escaping the reality to a world where my poetry is based on my whole new dimension of seeing life which is void of cruelty and hatred and only based on how it is supposed to be. As children we have heard a lot of poems and even learnt them but how many see as to why it is written in a form of poetry and not a story? Or for instance describing something as simple as a rose to the strength and femininity of a woman ? In today's life we hardly even get time to sit and have a peaceful cup of coffee let alone enjoying the essence of it. Though its completely agreeable that not everyone can write a poem but is it not worth it to value even the tiniest moment we miss to acknowledge in life. For instance, when we read a line, her eyes are like twinkling stars and smile as a blooming flower, we realize how much we miss out in life busy cribbing of the other things we cant posses. The rising of the sun to pleasant evening walks, from a child's carefree laughter to a teenager's sheer joy of first success,from a new born's first sight to a its first words to his or her parents, from a newly married couple's first gesture to a old couple sharing a lovable moment and so on are the few examples of how little moments matter and are not always are in fantasy and only in poetry. We just miss out tiny little moments which give away a lot of pleasure and joy with huge amount of contentment to our life. What we don't realize is though we know it that time never comes back, it moves ahead and waits for none, we still gamble and run behind money and success. I am not against anyone wanting to earn and have a larger life but it wouldn't hurt to share a moment and to appreciate the little things and joy of life the way it is. Poetry is nothing but what reality is, its just that we over look it. As i had said its the perspective. I don't know how many are smiling reading this at the end or gonna forget it but am sure its going to make a mark in your mind to value those moments if not consciously but subconsciously you will end up doing it. So here i am ending this on a lighter note value moments and be a reason for your loved ones or someone's smile each day, nothing more could give you that inner peace you would get.

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