IS IT REALLY A MAN'S WORLD?

Hey I'm back with my next blog and the last one of this year and for many more to come over the years.

This question is something that is bothering me in many ways and I know all have different perspectives and I whole heartedly respect that. Neither am a feminist nor have a drive to prove masculinity and its importance. I am just a human being.

We fight for right of a woman or a man's right. How many have actually focused on the whole agenda called basic human rights. Even in the media or any other portal it is said a girl/woman did this or a boy/man did that. Why can't it be a human helped another human.

Segregation is important at various levels when it comes to being gender oriented. But why put the unnecessary pressure? Can't all work on the same ground level?

Coming to my topic, all men are expected to behave in a certain way as it is said to be that, men are supposed to assertive, tough and focused on material success. I agree on the fact that the roles are being defined from very early stage, but there is a change in how the work is shared by both men and women in recent times.

Then why when a man does a mistake, the entire clan is blamed for it? Sometimes they don't even get to prove themselves. why ? Many men are slaves for the societal pressure and the way they are expected to be. But why?

If a boy is born, he become the bread owner as decided. Why don't you expect the same from a girl and make her independent or give equal rights. Or the next thing that a certain age to be married. Why? Because he will know responsibilities and will be tamed? Really?

What if he never learnt ? What about the pressure he goes through? or the pressure that stresses other relations?

Even men do have feelings, they can't always be tough as expected and they do cry,  may not be in front of us but in own confides of their heart. There is absolutely nothing wrong or to be ashamed of it. They are as human as we girls are. They do go through the changes in life in the same way we do. As much as marriage brings in the change of letting go of our family and starting a new, they are also starting a new life with a new responsibility. Then, why not share and understand their side of the story as well. They every right to pave their way in life and decide their future and commitments and not only on what is expected out of them. Fortunately, or unfortunately our law is biased towards women and I have known the group of men that are hidden from societal knowledge when they fight for rights of baseless allegations of some women and their suffering. Give them a benefit of doubt as well. There is always more to what meets the eye.

Ending this on a lighter note, think twice before you judge a man, be it your father, brother, husband or friend. They may seem to be as scared to be judged as you are. Think in their perspective and understand their struggles and sacrifices. Appreciate their efforts and be grateful for all that they did for you in any way throughout your life.

P.S. No offence to anyone and has nothing to do with anyone who has suffered in the hands of some men.

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Bitter or Better????

Hey everyone I'm back with my next blog. Thank you once again for the over-whelming response and love. 

To begin with my blog, the two words BITTER or BETTER has a single alphabet difference but a lot of difference in the meanings and the roles they play in our lives.

Over the time, each day passes by which is a memory, which we happen to call past. Even a second prior memory is a past memory. Strange how few seconds change so much in our life. We share a lot of memories, good or bad, with our family, friends, strangers, acquaintances, colleagues and so on. We have our own unique ways to store these memories, some hidden, some out in open, some in the form of photos or places and some just like a reel of our life.

Why is it difficult to accept what happened and move on?

Why some have the taste of bitterness?

There is always a point we are struck, either someone knows or no one has any idea of what runs through you. There is always a difference in accepting it and moving on or moving on just leaving it behind. When we leave it behind and try to move on, its re-occurrence in life will pull us back to the point we left it. We go through the same feeling again, maybe even worst only because we didn't make it a better memory.

Better memory need not be making it look happy, it just means accepting it whole heartedly. When bitter turns better, we just learn to deal with it in a much better way. It is, at times important to remember these memories as they make you realize how strong you have stood over the time and how strong you have become as a person. Accepting it and moving on doesn't make you heartless or insensitive as people usually may judge you. You are doing a favour on yourself, a favours of being happy. You are a better judge of your own life, so make sure it is a wise one.

Concluding this on a lighter note, everyone has a dark corner they wouldn't want to visit, either with the fear of losing the way or never coming back. But they don't realise they know the way no matter how much they deny it and when you find a way out, you will always find light shinning at you like it never was a dark corner.

PASSWORD or PASS-WORD

Hey everyone I'm back with my next blog, but before that as always thank you for the amazing response and the long patient wait for my next blog.

My blog begins with two similar words but with different meaning to it and my perspective on it. That is PASSWORD or PASS-WORDS. Here is a familiar topic but with a twist in name.

So lets begin with, why do we keep a password?

Usually it is kept to keep our personal things to ourselves as secret and for security. We give access to only few people we are really close to in life. We are always very guarded about everything that we keep and are extra cautious.

What happens when the password is spread to all?

It just becomes pass-words.

Each of us have few people in life with whom we share different forms of relationship, be it friends, family or confidant to share our password/ secret as we trust upon them that it wouldn't be passed on. Everyone has different ways or expressing themselves. They may or may not share it all but doesn't mean you know it all about them. They may be just confiding in you to know how much they can trust you with their secrets. Each relationship comes with a high quotient of trust factor. When the only person you share it all spreads the word, there wouldn't be any kind of trust or willingness to share.

Sometimes, if someone shares something the a person and they make it as another story and present it to people every now and then, it leads to rumors. Some take it lightly or don't bother to know, while for some it affects for life.

Have you wondered how would it be if someone does the same with you and your life?

May be many have come across similar situations as you are reading through this. Have you wondered you might have done something similar to someone consciously or unconsciously ? If no, that's a really nice thing. If yes, then why? Have you not put yourself in the same situation? what one shares to the other is their personal choice. You can't be the one telling what they wouldn't want to share until they are comfortable sharing it. It is necessary to share a transparency in any relationship than someone else saying the story to them. You know your story better than anyone. If you still don't want to share it, it is your personal choice, no one has the say in it. People don't realize how and when it affects other people's life until it happens to them. Why so laid back attitude towards others?

There is a thin life between sharing something appropriate and telling a well kept secret. As I already said it leads to rumors too. You may not realize it, but it gives a wrong perspective about a person and id there is not trust in the relationship they share with the person that this affects, it lead to breaking of relationships.

Would you ever wish this on you?

No right, then don't. Be sure of what you speak about and to whom are you sharing, than hurting the person you are speaking to and spoiling their relationships and even affecting the person you are talking about. Truth, half truth or lie, you have no right to sabotage anyone's image and relationship until you want to save someone or some situation. Even at times if you overhear someone or someone shares to you, make sure you clarify it to them if you feel the need for it or let it be if you know them well enough than ever judging someone. Doing this saves many kind of relationship's which break apart in today's world. Be truthful to yourself than to anyone else first.

Here's concluding, you may think you have a panoramic view of everything around you and no one would see or know what you did or doing. Never forget that others have the same view too. Stay Happy, Be Calm and Spread Lots Of Love. :) <3

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